Kelly The Human Measure

Lynn Kelly: Don't Ask for the Dead Man's Golf Clubs : What to Do and Say (and What Not to) When a Friend Loses a Loved One, Workman Publishing Company 2000

Paperback Fine 0761121862 Book Description Coping with death is never easy. It comes at all the wrong times, to all the wrong people. Even the deaths of those who say they are ready to go are very hard on family and loved ones. As friends of the bereaved, what can you do and say to bring some measure of comfort? Drawing on her own experience of being widowed at a young age, and combining it with the words of survivors who have lost mothers and children, husbands, grandparents and siblings, Lynn Kelly offers a simple but profound little book of advice. Don't Ask for the Dead Man's Gold Clubs--so called because in fact people will ask--is an invaluable guide to troubling times. There are four sections: What to Do Now, What to Do Over Time, What Not to Do, and the particularly difficult situations of Suicide, Stillbirth, and Miscarriage. The advice is practical, heartfelt, direct, insightful. Let your friend know how you feel. Express sympathy to all the family members. Talk about the dead person and not be afraid to say his or her name. Write a fond memory or send a picture. Bring food. Listen. Record a new phone message. Remember holidays. Keep giving hugs. And never: Criticize arrangements. Assume that it's a blessing. Make parallels with animals. Say I know how you feel. Do something without asking. And don't ever, ever ask for the dead man's golf clubs. t is the human experience shared, and how to be a true friend at the time of greatest need. From the Back Cover "An extraordinarily helpful little book" (Jane Brody, The New York Times) It's hard to know how to help a friend who is grieving. Drawing on experience and wisdom from people who have lost husbands, wives, parents, children, and siblings, this book offers hundreds of helpful, succinct, and heartfelt suggestions on how to provide comfort, now and over time. It explains what to say and do and what not to say and do. Plus what to write, how to deal with the holidays, the importance of hugs - and why never, ever to ask for the dead man's golf clubs. ..Rare Books make rare gifts... Experience, Quality, Value..

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Holland, Ray.: Self and Social Context. London, Macmillian. 1977.,
Einband leicht berieben. - Personality and role theory has been the subject of considerable discussion by many of this century"s major figures in the psychological and social sciences. As a result, a diversity of individual theories has been generated, many of which seem either incompatible or at best difficult to relate to one another. A method of achieving a measure of integration among this diversity is obviously desirable, and it is to this end that Ray Holland"s book is devoted. His approach involves a critical reading of the published work of the most important authors -a method more typical of literary criticism or psychoanalysis than the human sciences. Nevertheless, the identification of themes common to all the major theories and the tracing of their development from author to author proves to be a powerful tool; further, it is one which has the great advantage of transcending disciplinary boundaries in a way which is rarely possible with other techniques. The book begins with a critical survey of the work of Mead, Sullivan, Erikson, Jourard, Allport, Kelly, Rogers and Maslow, and so proceeds to role theories, which are seen as a crucial indicator of the relationship between sociology and psychology as professional disciplines. The results and lines of approach emerging from these first stages are applied to more sophisticated and radical theories such as those of Laing, Esterson, the object relations psychoanalysts, the structuralists and the Marxists in an attempt to lay the foundations of a trans-disciplinary theory of self and role in social context.

303 Seiten. Originalkarton.

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